Reacting to pain with fear – Tara Brach

“While fear of pain is a natural human reaction, it is particularly dominant in our culture where we consider pain as bad, or wrong. Mistrusting our bodies, we use “painkillers,” assuming that whatever removes pain is the right thing to do. In our society’s cultural trance, rather than a natural phenomenon, pain is regarded as the enemy. Pain is the messenger we try to kill, not something we allow and embrace.” […..]
“When painful sensations arise and we can simply meet them with clarity and presence, we can see that pain is just pain. We can listen to pain’s message and respond appropriately — taking good care. If we are mindful of pain rather than reactive, we do not contract into the experience of a victimized, suffering self. We can meet whatever presents itself with Radical Acceptance, allowing the changing stream of sensations to simply flow through us without making any of it wrong.”

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Rumi poem

Do not worry if our harp breaks
Thousands more will appear.
We have fallen in the arms of love where all is music.
If all the harps in the world were burned down,
Still inside the heart
There will be hidden music playing.
Do not worry if all the candles in the world flicker and die.
We have the spark that starts the fire.
The songs we sing
Are like the foam on the surface of the sea of being,
While the precious gems lie deep beneath.
But the tenderness in our songs
Is a reflection of what is hidden in the depths.
Stop the flow of your words,
Open the window of your heart,
And let the spirit speak.

The Anatomy of Fear – via Anatomy in Motion

“Within seconds of perceiving a threat, the primitive amygdala sounds a general alarm. The adrenal system promptly floods the body with adrenaline and stress hormones. Nonessential physiological processes switch off. Digestion stops, skin chills, and blood is diverted into muscles in preparation for a burst of emergence action. Breathing quickens, the heart races and blood pressure skyrockets, infusing the body with oxygen while the liver releases glucose for quick fuel. The entire body is suddenly in a state of high alert, ready for fight or flight.” By Minnesota State University Moorhead via Anatomy in Motion 970981_530320747022743_114401354_n

What is biodynamic craniosacral therapy – via Biodynamic Thought

“For every stressful experience that activates the sympathetic nervous system there should be an equal amount of downtime for the parasympathetic nervous system to can kick in and repair the damage. Unfortunately our modern world often does not afford us that time. So the nervous system (NS) has to prioritize what is important to deal with immediately and what can wait to be dealt with in another moment. […]

BCST is a healing modality that takes your body out of the sympathetic state and into the parasympathetic state. The transition from fight-flight to rest-digest is imperative to healing. Without that transition, the body is unable to go from maintenance mode to repair mode and therefore is unable to heal. When you are ill you are resting and sleeping all the time because that is the only state that will allow for healing to happen.”

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‘Birth Trauma: A Cultural Blind Spot’ by Matthew Appleton

Needs crying is when a baby is expressing a present moment need, such as being hungry, uncomfortable, over-stimulated, under-stimulated or tired. These are basic needs and when they are met the crying stops. Memory crying is when the baby is experiencing sensations and images that relate to an earlier experience, such as a moment in the birth that was overwhelming. This type of crying is associated with repetitive body movements, such as frantically pushing or ‘paddling’ with the legs or swiping an area of the head or pulling an ear again and again. These movements are sometimes expressing an impulse that got blocked, such as the attempt to push through the birth canal that became overwhelmed by anaesthetic coming through the umbilical cord. It may indicate a place where the cranium became compressed by a pelvic bone or the baby became disoriented and lost. There are times in the birth process where babies do not know if they are going to survive. They are being crushed under intense pressure, flooded by stress hormones or drugs through the umbilical cord or deprived of oxygen as the cord gets compressed during the contractions. Babies express the powerful emotions that any of us would associate with such intense experiences; rage, panic, sadness, disorientation.”

With craniosacral therapy we hold the space for babies to express their birth memories and be heard. It is the listening to and acknowledging of the pain that  allows the baby to let go of it.

Read more: Birth Trauma: A Cultural Blind Spot.

Craniosacral Therapy: Its Contribution To Birthing And Being Born by Simon Copp

“What I feel is unique about craniosacral therapy is its approach to conception, embryological development and birth. Such a concept is based on the acknowledgement of us as a sentient being from conception, and that from this point onward we can and do experience the same traumas, pleasures, pains that we experience later in life as children and adults….  Craniosacral therapy can facilitate acknowledgement of these issues for both mother and child and prevent these factors becoming a causator of negative influences in later life. By attentive listening to the craniosacral system, an integration and dissipation of the trauma can be achieved.”

Read more: Craniosacral Therapy: Its Contribution To Birthing And Being Born | Natural Childbirth Articles.

Your soul song – Alan Cohen

When a woman in a certain African tribe knows she is pregnant, she goes out into the wilderness with a few friends and together they pray and meditate until they hear the song of the child. They recognize that every soul has its own vibration that expresses its unique flavor and purpose. When the women attune to the song, they sing it out loud. Then they return to the tribe and teach it to everyone else.
When the child is born, the community gathers and sings the child’s song to him or her. Later, when the child enters education, the village gathers and chants the child’s song. When the child passes through the initiation to adulthood, the people again come together and sing. At the time of marriage, the person hears his or her song.
Finally, when the soul is about to pass from this world, the family and friends gather at the person’s bed, just as they did at their birth, and they sing the person to the next life.
To the African tribe there is one other occasion upon which the villagers sing to the child. If at any time during his or her life, the person commits a crime or aberrant social act, the individual is called to the center of the village and the people in the community form a circle around them. Then they sing their song to them.
The tribe recognizes that the correction for antisocial behavior is not punishment; it is love and the remembrance of identity. When you recognize your own song, you have no desire or need to do anything that would hurt another.
A friend is someone who knows your song and sings it to you when you have forgotten it. Those who love you are not fooled by mistakes you have made or dark images you hold about yourself. They remember your beauty when you feel ugly; your wholeness when you are broken; your innocence when you feel guilty; and your purpose when you are confused.
You may not have grown up in an African tribe that sings your song to you at crucial life transitions, but life is always reminding you when you are in tune with yourself and when you are not. When you feel good, what you are doing matches your song, and when you feel awful, it doesn’t. In the end, we shall all recognize our song and sing it well.
(Alan Cohen)